How do you notice God in your everyday life – and how would I notice it?
Inspired by the song 95questions
95 questions
before you say yes
A conversation guide for couples getting to know each other and for everyone preparing for marriage. 95 questions about faith, money, family, intimacy and everyday life – in an order that leads from easy to honest.
A question from the set
The same questions, two different moments
Those getting to know each other want to know who they are dealing with. Those who want to marry want to know what they are saying yes to. The 95 questions carry both – you decide how far you want to go.
How to work with them
- Take five questions per meeting, no more.
- Both answer – whoever asks also answers.
- No question has to be answered right away. 'Later' is an answer too.
- Write down where you disagree. That is exactly where the conversation begins.
Questions 1–48
While getting to know each other
This half leads in calmly: background, faith, friendships, how you handle time and money. Questions that spark curiosity instead of testing – good for long walks and for evenings when you want to know more than just what the other likes.
Questions 49–95
While preparing for marriage
Here it gets serious: children, roles, conflict, intimacy, where to live, caring for parents, dealing with debts and dreams. The questions you had better ask before the yes – so that the yes holds.
What is inside the 95 questions
Nine blocks in rising order: from what is easy to talk about to what takes courage. Tap a block for a sample question.
Which habit from your parents' home do you want to pass on – and which one ends with you?
Free download
The 95 questions as a PDF
All 95 questions on twelve pages, sorted by topic and ready to print. Enter your first name and email – the PDF appears right here and also arrives by email.
- All 95 questions in nine topic blocks
- A guide for your first conversation
- Space for notes on every question
- Print-ready in A5 and A4
Three albums – available everywhere
The 95 questions grew out of the song 95questions. It belongs to three albums available on Spotify, Apple Music and YouTube Music.
Two Wings
Men & Women Edition
Songs about man and woman as the two wings of one bird: no one flies alone. This is also where 95questions lives – the song the questions come from.
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We Are Here To Serve
Album
Songs about family, service and the small faithful acts of everyday life – music that fits well alongside the questions when you take your time.
Modern Family
Album
Songs about family today: togetherness, everyday life and how love succeeds under modern conditions.
Where the questions come from
Ask me anything you want to know – I am not afraid of your questions.
from 95questions, album Two Wings
In three minutes the song makes a single request: let us talk before we promise. That request became 95 questions – take them into your next conversation.
95 questions · for couples getting to know each other and on the way to marriage